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Increasingly Iranian women who grow up in the West choose Western men over Iranian men for dating or marriage. They claim that relationships with Iranian men are often caught in a web of traditional under codes that gradually force them to take traditional roles and undermine their independence and confidence. ... Read More
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posted by dahlia on 04/22/09
persian man

and he never showed any signs of remorse. My friends who knows about him calls him a sex maniac because he would ask any woman to date with him, doesn't matter if your young or old. It makes him feels he is so handsome and lovable. He plays with womens emotions. I know men in the middle east are very respectful of their mother but have they ever thought she was a woman too?
ARIANALY replied:
Don't be stupid....move on...
These man are the worst ever. Since they're not in Iran, they have no respect for woman and just use the stupid none iranian woman.They are out of Iran and into the hunt in America and of course they want a free ride. Lets not be stupid anymore and detach from these hearth or rock man. They do not deserve to be care for, just use them, get something out of them and if you can't just leave with our dignity. Move along....There 's so manhy wonderful none iranian man out there. Don't you know, that iranian hate anything that is not iranian? including YOU! Do you think he loves you, NO, he doesn 't, he is just using your body....and maby your money, car and taking your time and all because they are nice to you.....GET YOUR SELF UP and going...find your happines somewhere else...this man are the best actors. Iranian Persian man are full of it.
posted by noname32 on 12/20/08
American woman - Persian Man

Six months ago I started seeing a Persian man. He is in his mid-30s and I am in my early 40s. Up front, he told me that he had to marry a Persian girl and he could never give me what I was looking for. I was not looking for anything since I had just gotten out of a long term relationship.

We started out calling our relationship many things but settled on 'friends'. We sleep at each others homes and talk almost daily. His family does not know about me. His last relationship of two years ended because she wanted marriage and children. She was American. I found out that he has only dated one Persian girl. One. I enjoy his company and his quirks. I also know that I need to run for the hills but his sensitivity and inner beauty (for a lack of a better word) keeps me drawn to him. I know that I fail his 'test' for a future...persian, muslim and child bearing but we keep coming back to each other.

Why am I sharing? So that someone else out there will know that dating a Persian man with 'family obligations' is not easy and will not end well. You have to be prepared to walk away at any moment. I have yet to walk away. I just cannot bring myself to do it yet.
anon84 replied:
Same story, noname32
Wow, noname32: same story here, but three years in the making.

We're in our mid to late twenties. We met at school, kept running into each other, and became inseparable. He's serious and studious (and smart)--nothing not to like, except that he distanced himself from me from the beginning, telling me that our relationship could only be temporary. I told him it didn't matter: we'd just stay together until he went back to Iran to get married.

I fell in love with him one year in. He tried to break up with me several times, and I dated other men in an effort to get over him. Nothing worked: I loved him, and I cleaved to him.

Two years into our relationship, he broke up with me before leaving on a two-week business trip. When he returned, I told him I had started dating someone else; but we were both miserable. We got back together, and even considered marriage--but not very seriously: we knew that marriage would have been hard, when there are so many easier paths. Still, I went through Persian grammar books and tried to imagine living with him in his country (he wanted to end his life there, but live in America). In my mind I still say: If only he'd been from almost any other country!

My story, though, has a sort of ending. He left three months ago for Iran, after our dating for nearly three years. He didn't contact me at all until a few days ago. He is engaged to a Persian woman, and doesn't know whether or when he'll return to the U. S. We've written each other a few times now, but his latest email was succinct: little more than "keep me in the loop."

I'd like to be a friend and wish him well in his life, but I still love him.
dahlia replied: 04/22/09
persian man
I had the same relationship with a persian man. If a man tells you I cannot marry because of this..... that means he's into playing only. He'll make you feel he loves you because he needs you but when the time comes for him to leave he'll dump you like a garbage and he will never look back or feel remorseful that how persian men are especially the muslim persian man. I know by experience.
posted by HeCallsMeFereshteh on 10/19/08
The lies

I was dating a persian man here in Canada, he was sweet, kind and generous. Treated me very well. Until he has his wife shipped over from Iran. He still wanted to see me, still treated me well, told me not to worry. She was just here for citizenship, they had an understanding. So I believed him, as her arrival did not change our relationship. We traveled together, had fun, concieved a child, that I did misscarry. He became even more attentive, made future plans for us, then out of the blue told me he was leaving the country with his wife, and he broke up with all of the other ladies her was seeing, why was I taking this so bad, that I just didnt understand him.... He right I do not... I am sad and hurt. and blogging it out online as a form of therapy.

I would suggest to stay away from him. He has many great qualities, but under it all it is all lies.
posted by nahid on 07/30/06
It must be in male gene.

I raised my son with love, taught him to love and respect everyone specially women.

He loves me and does everything for me, he is a wonderful son. But when it comes to his girl fiends a totally different character comes out. I feel sorry for women he is dating. He chits on them when I protest he says they do not deserve any better.

I do not want him to get married now but I am worried that with this attitude he will never find happiness. A woman in love may be blind or tolerating but later in a marriage they will want to be equal and they will divorce him.

All I can say is that I did not teach nor do I approve this behavior, his father passed away long ago. I wonder where he got this attitude from, it must be in male gene.

Bella replied:

Unless it is your son that I have been dating there are many men out there like that. I fell in love w/an Iranian man who told me his mom raised him to respect women and treat them right. Then he told me months later he was seeing other women (in a round about way w/o having to say the words "cheat" on me. You're right--they are different when they want to be. He loves him mom dearly, and I thought that he would then treat me right--I was wrong.
posted by chysta on 06/28/06
marde irani

ba in maghale kamelan movafegham,,,choon khodam ham az hamin noe ezdevaj va jodaee ro dashtam
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